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Here are 11 commitments that will enable you to build a conflict-resilient connection.

1.       Our first goal in a conversation is to understand one another.

2.       My thoughts, feeling, and needs are valuable and important, and so are yours.

3.       I do not participate in disrespectful conversations.

4.       We need to communicate our true feelings and needs to establish trust and intimacy.

5.       It’s my job to tell you what is going on inside me, and so you.

6.       The best way to communicate my feelings and needs to you is to use “i messages” and clear, specific statements that show what I am feeling and experiencing.

7.       I’ll not expect you to know my feeling and needs unless I’ve communicated them to you.

8.       I’ll not make judgment statements or tell you how you must change in order to meet my needs.

9.       When you communicate your needs to me, it’s my job to listen well so I can understand what you need.

10.   I’m commited to protecting and nurturing our connection.

11.   It’s my job to manage my heart so that I can respon to you in love and cast out fear in our relationship.